Why are 3 out of 4 Suicides Men?

- Progress that has already occurred and solutions - Men and mental health Suicide is the biggest killer of men under the age of 45. In 2015, 75% of suicides registered in the UK were men. It’s important that despite all the great progress occurring we continue to push towards tackling this problem within our…

A Silence in the Black Community Around Mental Health?

Introduction – the effects of institutionalised racism, wealth inequalities and social structures In all communities within the UK and around the world there is a silence around mental health, it’s a societal and worldwide issue. From research I have done, conversations with peers about experiences, as well as learning about it last year one in…

Protect your Peace

3 min read So where should I start? The year of 2020 has been a roller coaster for us all. This year has disturbed the inner peace of many and some may feel absolutely overwhelmed because of the current climate we have been forced to inhabit. I would just like to spread this message, a…

Does University Worsen your Mental Health?

- The education system & wellbeing - Introduction Throughout the early stage of our lives we spend a lot of time, if not the majority, at school. From primary, secondary and all the way to university. 9am – 4pm, 5 days a week, 40+ weeks a year. It’s routine and it’s the way we are…

Race and Politics – Is there a place for ethnic minorities in the current system?

From FO's Perspectives At the end of Last year, I wrote an article touching on the relationship between ethnic minorities and their voting patterns, highlighting how they tend to stay to the left of the political spectrum due to their voting rational (individual vs community). One of the key premises was that they tend to…

“Out of sight, Out of mind”

At 19 I experienced a traumatic brain injury which changed my life in many ways. For starters, my interactions with people changed drastically. I went from being an outgoing, outspoken and confident individual to somebody who even I could no longer recognise. Now, I am extremely shy, since my injury, I despise going out in…

Change Your Story – It’s Not The End

So, it’s been well over a month since I last posted on here and it was time that I really needed to be able to sort myself out because life really came at me hard and personally I thought it was rude. I’m still in the process of doing my own searching of ‘finding myself’…

The Economic Impact of Coronavirus

From FO's Perspectives Since coming to our attention in Wuhan, China in November 2019, the Coronavirus (COVID-19) has rapidly spread throughout the globe, destabilizing communities, nations, and continents as its impact starts to become more pertinently felt with steeply rising infection numbers and death tolls. Coronavirus is a disease caused by SARS, where the virus…

Asking for help could kick start your happiness!

*say the below out loud* “I am ready to receive all obstacles and opportunities, required to successfully execute my vision for my life. Aka I’m ready beat 2020’s ass & get what I deserve” – Aaliyah Mckay Ever heard of the saying if you don’t ask you don’t get? Well, this little statement is something…

So, you want to be a lawyer? | The Commercial Law Path

Having the Direction Choosing to become a commercial/corporate lawyer is easy – pursuing that career choice with the necessary tenacity, energy, and vision, to realise it, is tough. Furthermore, different people can become a ‘lawyer’ – indeed, most City law firms focus on having a ‘diverse range’ of hires, both in their physical characteristics, but…

My Secret

“What’s your secret?” “How do you make it work?” “You guys are always happy” These are just a few of the questions I always get asked about my relationship. Since the age of 16, we’ve had 8 strong years together. 8 years. It’s crazy when I think about it. When listening to the Real Talk’s…

Meaning over Money?

You meet someone for the first time, smiles are being frequently exchanged and theconversation is flowing like a river on a summer's day. You've talked about interests, life and even those banal, but oddly addictive sitcoms that we often spend time watching in guilt because we promised ourselves, we'd be in the gym this weekend.…

Silent Poison II: Behind the Smile

What am I doing in life? Do I even know where I'm going? Why am I in Uni? What am I doing wrong?! Sometimes, it just all gets a bit too much you know. Feeling like life is coming at you so fast - so much to do but no idea where to start. Seeing…

The Power of Goal Setting and Learning from Your Mistakes

What do you want for yourself? Where do you see yourself next month? Where do you see yourself next year? Can you answer these questions? If not, you lack goals. Goals are a very powerful tool for working towards the things you want in life, whether that be riches, to lose weight or to be…

New Year New Me?

New Year New Me? Biggest lie I tell myself every year. It’s a new year but why should I become a new person? It’s actually funny how many years I’ve said this same phrase, but nothing has changed. I start the year sticking to all my new years resolutions for a month or so and…

Placement Year – Lessons learnt

As I begin my final year at Loughborough University this week, I have taken some time to reflect on the year that has passed. I have been so lucky to meet some inspiring people, who have really pushed me this year. I was fortunate enough to have a great placement year with an even more…

My Year In Industry

Wow hi - feel like I haven't blogged in ages lool! It's been a while. Just thought I'd do a quick reflection on my Year in Industry and touch on some key things I've done/learnt. Firstly for those that don't know, a Year in Industry is when you (an undergraduate student) takes a year out…

White Supremacy & Privilege?

I was recently asked to fill out a survey for my friend's dissertation. It was on the topic of 'White Supremacy and Privilege'. According to Wikipedia, white supremacy or white supremacism is the racist belief that white people are superior to people of other races and therefore should be dominant over them and the 'privilege'…

My ACL experience

“Minor setback, major comeback”. I have said this a lot in my journey, far too much for my liking, at  this point ‘Major Setback minor comeback’  is seeming a lot more accurate. 2 steps forward and another step back, hard luck I guess. My very own wilderness experience. I begin my first draft of this blog at 4:37am unable to sleep because of my own anxiety. Tonight it’s anxiety, tomorrow it’ll be overwhelming regret or deep…

When the Headlines Become your Reality

Dealing with the Death(-by-Knife) of a Loved One (A Young Person’s Perspective) You watch the news and think you’re safe, that your world is a world away from such matters, as if these types of things could never happen to you. London. A place I – like many others – call “home”. A place that’s…

Property Picking

How many people can say they’ve got a plan for how they’re going to retire early or how they’re going to buy their first property? I can’t even lie these are questions that I’ve recently been asking myself. Maybe it might relate to you also, but I think we’re currently living in a generation where not…

The Perception of Black Masculinity

- By Dillon Adabie I’ve been going back and forth on whether I should start writing, due to the fact that I don’t know if I’m ready to actually share my feelings on the internet. But it’s 10:44pm, I’ve just got a trim and I’m feeling inspired, so here we go... There are very few…

Consent.

I was raped twice within four months of my first year at university. What a way to start a blog post lol. But by God’s grace, I’m writing this as someone that’s doing pretty well on my journey of healing from trauma. Consent is something I’ve been wanting to raise awareness about for a while.…

The Changing Face of Capitalism

Wants are a funny old thing, human beings all have something they want. You, me, a pauper or a billionaire- despite our differences in race, income or education- all have common ground in one thing, we all "want" something. This forms the premises of what economists call the basic economic problem, to sum it up…

A Tribute to Nipsey: What Legacy Will You Leave Behind?

In light of the recent passing of rapper Nipsey Hussle who was commonly known for his philanthropic work in his community, his greatest success was that he stayed and nurtured others. He wasn’t just a rapper with a title, he used his position and influence to serve his community which will forever go down in…

It’s Not You

Hello all, so I'm back with a topic for that I was hesitant to write about but writing about my experiences and feelings is a part of healing for me and also one of the foundations of my 'Thoughts of Chi' brand. Long story short, I'm currently healing from a sudden break up that's taken…

Terms and Conditions Apply

First of all, can we all agree it is NOT and will never be by force to be in a relationship? Even if you’re 30+ and your parents are screaming "when will you marry?" It will still never be by force. Especially if you have to lower your standards? If you have to settle? It…

Let’s talk Brexit!

Theresa May said this... Boris Johnson is doing a madness and who the hell is Donald Tusk?? This UK is done out here! As a lot of you know (or should know), the United Kingdom is going through a political roller-coaster right now. Probably the biggest moves in the world of Euro Politics since the…

Not so Social Media

"Our continual connection to social media makes us prone to new forms of viral emotional effects. These are not media designed for calm reflection. With their constant presence, we have less and less mental space to step back and think." Robert Greene in The Laws of Human Nature As a young person growing up in the…

I’m Sure I Have Talent?

Everyday I wake up in the morning and ask myself the same question. ‘I’m sure I have talent but where is my talent leading me?’ Self-doubt is a strong toxic trait of mine that I am learning to overcome day by day. But it’s hard when you constantly put pressure on yourself to be the…

Representation Matters

Growing up in ends there was definitely a glamorisation towards the road life. Certain behaviour traits were idolised, whilst other traits were called moist. If you wanted to be socially recognized, part of the cool lot, your path, and in turn your personality was limited.You couldn’t be seen to be getting A‘s in tests or…

Ends to Reality

everybody's story is different. as a controversial character, its kinda hard explaining how I am and most days I put 100% blame on the ‘streets’ lol. half of the time I hate when I say that because it's as if im using that an excuse or a pathway for failure to creep in… but that’s…

The Narcissistic Community

PsychologyToday defines a narcissist as someone with a lack of ability to empathize with others and an inflated sense of self-importance. From this stems the Narcissistic Personality Disorder characterised by people frequently described as arrogant, self-centered, manipulative, and demanding. They may also concentrate on personal fantasies (e.g. their own success, beauty, brilliance) and may be…

BLACK

'BLACK'. A five letter word we are very familiar with. What comes to mind when you think of the word 'Black'? Not sure? Well, according to the Oxford Dictionary, a black person is anyone  "belonging to or denoting any human group having dark-coloured skin, especially of African ancestry". This doesn't paint the whole picture, so…

Silent Poison I: Behind the Smoke

Mental health... A concept that completely flew over my head growing up. “I don’t know how people end up in that state”, “surely they have people around them to talk to?” This pretty much summed up my outlook on mental health - naivety at its finest. It wasn’t until I entered the mythical world known…

“Dreams too large to fit in a small head”

“Why is your head so big?” Lol, someone asked me this question on one of them anonymous questions websites. [Quick side-note; if the person who asked that is reading this blog post; message me, I just want to talk 🙂]. Now I’m not one to fight anonymous people on the internet so I answered, ‘Dreams too large to fit in a small…

You never know what you have until it’s gone

Dunno about you, but it takes a significant experience or change for me to really understand things in life. Not all but some. I recently started reading The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey. He put forward his analysis of 'paradigms' and their shifts. Without giving too much of a summary, paradigms…

More than just a 1st class

Ight so we're well into October now, that time of the year when the buzz of uni has died down a bit. Freshers was a madness (but let's not talk about that). As a fresher hopefully at this time you've more or less settled into the uni environment and as a returner sights set on…